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I'm almost 42 years old. I have never been married. But that doesn't mean I'm not having a good time. What's being single in my 40s like? Pretty great. When I was in my 20s, I didn't stress about the possibility that I wouldn't get married and have. I dated enough, but I never put the kind of intensity into it that some of my friends and relatives did.
I realize now that they were courting with the very specific Im single and 40 of finding a soul mate. Back then, I hardly knew who I was, and I was too self-involved at that time to really get to know anyone else. Now in my 40s, I know who I am, but I'm just not so sure that it's someone who belongs in a marriage, or even a serious relationship. If you're alone, you have to make your own living and social life. True, my friends who are paired off, and especially those who have children, tend to hang out with the similarly coupled and fecund.
So I have to make time to see them, even if that means relegating certain friendships to workweek lunch dates. Feeling frustrated or uncertain about my job is scary, but it would be a lot more frightening to be dependent on someone else for both my happiness and financial stability. Going solo, you will never be abandoned. I won't sugarcoat it.
There are times that being alone is hard. My dog barely obeys simple commands, let alone really listens to me. Weddings, now usually starring brides and grooms much younger than I am, are reminders that my life has failed to take on a traditional trajectory. While I'm thrilled that many states now recognize gay marriage, I have lost the comfort of having lots of friends in the same single ship. To quote a Kenny Loggins song, "I'm free. Last weekend, I went to a birthday party for my friends' adorable 2-year-old son. I saw old buddies from grad school, met their children, and had a fantastic time.
I left when the toddler tantrums started.
Then I returned to the sanctity of my quiet condo —and watched Footloose. Will I ever find love? Are my friendships enough to make my life satisfying? I do have family. I'm lucky enough to have my mom and my brothers and their families in my life. I also have diverse friends, some of whom I only see a few times a year, but I have enough interaction with them to keep my social circle churning.
But there are still unknowns. Let's talk about sex, baby. Well, I have an outlet for that, available to me if I want it. Most women do. Newsflash: Finding a man who is interested in physical intimacy without emotional attachment or commitment is super easy.
Am I all kinds of free-loving? I will never be compared to the fictional archetypes on "Sex and the City," and I often wonder if I'm part of the same species as the millennial women featured in "Girls. Spinsters have come a long way. Unmarried writer Kate Bolick has recently written an interesting book on the topic. I don't have any statistics, but I live in a big city, and I avoid super-religious sects that shun those outside of marriage, so I know plenty of other single men and women who are also in their 40s. I'm not going to lie. In terms of my perpetually single status, my 30s were rough.
I spent that entire decade panicking about my lack of a serious relationship and feeling like a big old freak.
So turning 40 gave me a magical gift. Product Reviews. Home Ideas. United States. Type keyword s to search. Today's Top Stories. Our Day Strength Challenge. Alistair Berg Getty Images. Life is interesting. You have to be smart. It can get lonely.
You're liberated. The future can be uncertain. My sex life? It's fabulous. My situation isn't uncommon. I feel enlightened. This content is created and maintained by a third party, and imported onto this to help users provide their addresses. You may be able to find more information about this and similar content at piano. Advertisement - Continue Reading Below. More From Relationships.41, Single and No tudo-mata.fun Truth
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